Time for Another Facelift

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Yep, this will actually be my second one! At this point you’re most likely looking for a photo of me and thinking, she didn’t get her moneys worth the first time.

 

No, I’m not talking about my face or me; I’m talking about my website! Woman’s InSite is undergoing changes for the better. I can’t believe where I started and how fast things change but technology demands that I get mobile responsive so you all can read my site easier on your phones and tablets since we are all on the run these days.

 

I figure if I’m going to make a change then I’m going to change it all. I’ll have a whole new look and I know you are going to LOVE IT!

 

Here’s a look back at my first logo:

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Here’s what I have now:

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You’ll have to stay tuned to see what’s to come! I’ve already let you know that I’ll be having another party VERY SOON to celebrate my book, Networking: Naked & Unafraid. I think celebrating my new look will be in order as well.

 

Watch for details on the upcoming celebration!

If you’re not on the In List, it’s time to join so you are sure to get an invitation!

 

Join the In List HERE!

 

 

Five Do’s and Don’ts for Raising Money Fit Kids

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In order for our kids to mature into adults with healthy financial habits, it is our job as parents to help them cultivate the mindset that will help them to master money and not allow money to master them. As we train our future leaders to make wise financial decisions, here are five do’s and don’ts for teaching kids at an early age about healthy money management.

1. Talk about money openly and honestly with your kids. Do not shy away from these important teaching opportunities. While you do not have to disclose every detail of your financial life, it is necessary for your children to witness your thought process in making wise money choices. It will help them to make better financial choices as well as learn how to be unafraid when communicating with others about money.

2. Get kids involved in family budgeting. A great way to make your kids apart of the cash flow planning process is to have a monthly budget meeting and allow them to participate. This experience can serve as the foundation for your kids learning how to budget and communicate effectively about money when they are adults.

3. Empower your kids to take an active role in the household by earning their own money. One way that you can achieve this is by giving them incentives to earn their own money to pay for extracurricular activities. If they want to be on the dance squad, encourage them to find ways to cover the expense. If your child working outside of the home while going to school is not appealing, they do not have to find a job too far away from home. They can be paid for work that you find for them to do around the house, for neighbors, or for nearby family members. An Internet-based business is a wonderful place for kids to start an income producing business.

4. Don’t leave it up to schools to educate your kids – educate them yourself. You are the parent. Ultimately, it is your job to make sure that your kids have the essential life skills that they need in order to be successful money managers. The buck stops with you; not the local school system.

5. Don’t give your kids everything they want. The world thanks you in advance for not releasing upon society a child with an entitlement complex. It makes everyone’s life easier when our kids know the word, “No” and how to work for the things they want. It is a character builder.

If you want to raise a “money fit kid” who becomes a financially savvy adult, it’s never too early to start teaching them sound financial principles.

What do you do for FUN?

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To this day my kids still talk about “the place where mom went down the water slides with us!” I remember as my husband walked off with the kids to go swim, I sat there enjoying the peace and quiet.   Sitting there looking pretty, I didn’t dare move cause others may see my imperfections.  As I people watched, I couldn’t help but notice a trend…all the women were sitting around covered up and looking pretty and all the dads were smiling, wet and having FUN!!! I thought to myself… what am I doing? Am I having FUN??   Who says I can’t swim with my kids with my imperfections and all! Besides I will NEVER see these people again! So I went and joined in the FUN!  The kids were so excited to see me join along.   Down the slides I went!  The looks I got were hilarious. Some of the other moms were laughing at me as I came down the slides squealing with joy. There is no doubt I was having some FUN and created a lasting memory for my kids and myself!

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Regardless what stage of life you are… weather it is bathing suit season or not.  LOVE and ACCEPT yourself and stay connected with FUN!

Don’t get me wrong we all compare and fantasize about having a great “summer”, “younger”, “leaner” body from all those images we have obtained as “ideal” from those altered magazine covers we glance at.

As Robin S. Rosenburg, PH.D has suggested consider, “fantasizing in a different direction — about being comfortable with the body you actually have.” In order for us to see change, it all starts with accepting our current circumstances.

If you can’t accept your body the way it is today… you will not accept a “perfect” body you “think“ you need to be happy.  I think many of us can relate to this Body Image Campaign I came across.   You can loose the weight or fix the imperfections… you will continue to find imperfections until you truly accept and love the inner you! So take the step and embrace yourself! Get to know YOU and face the challenges and change the unconscious thinking patterns so you can be the person you were meant to be!  Fall in love all over again, with yourself and live the life you desire!

Need a place to start… consider the FREE Hay House Summit. Last year, the ear piece was attached from my phone to my ear for 7 days… listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Dr. Christina Northrup, Deepak Chopra M.D, Kris Carr… just to name a few.  It is transformational!

So step outside your comfort zone and find some FUN:  go dance,  explore a new hobby, call up an old friend,  save $ and have some FUN through Living Social or Groupon –  what are you waiting for? When you are 80, 90 or 100 (still having fun!)…. you want to have some stories to share!

 

 

Marriage and Money

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I remember it like yesterday. Sitting at home, taking care of our not-yet-two-year-old, when my now ex announced that we were facing foreclosure. The words did not compute initially, because I did not know how that was possible when he made six figures in the prior year. After all, I had the tax return and bill saying that we owed $20,000 for unpaid income taxes. Perhaps, that should have been my clue that something was bad in the water in Texas. Nevertheless, I was dealing with my own issues. I had just had a baby and I was recovering from a serious bout of post-partum depression. The last thing I thought I had to worry about as the happy, upper-middle class, stay-at-home mom, was that the person who was supposed to be bringing home the bacon was in fact not even throwing fake bacon bits to the mortgage company. It never crossed my mind that though the home loan was solely in my name, I should be covering my back in case I found out one day that the mortgage was so far behind that the only thing that could “save us” was to declare bankruptcy.

Being the good spouse that I was, I agreed that it was absolutely okay for me to file bankruptcy, by myself, so that I could save our home- and my ex’s image. Besides, as was said during this blindsiding conversation, my credit did not matter because I was not working. Notwithstanding the fact that I was an attorney and persons who employ attorneys carefully scrutinize credit reports for history of bad behavior. All that mattered was to save the home, sell my possessions while we kept his toys, and make sure nothing happened to the breadwinner’s good name. I wish I had known then what I know now.

As a former family law practitioner, I frequently encountered persons with similar issues. Many times, I was called upon to offer advice, and/or direction, on how to obtain critical information that protects the family, and its individual members, in financial matters other than divorce and child support. The following is a list is of the common financial issues couples encounter and need assistance addressing. This matter is particularly critical for stay-at-home moms and other married women who do not work outside the home.

1. Account Access

Do both parties have easy access to all information on all financial accounts (this includes banking, investment accounts, credit cards, mortgage or auto loans, etc.)?

In order to protect both parties in the case of a life altering event such as incapacity or death, both parties should have a copy of every page, of all documents relating to any financial account that is held in either spouse’s name. All documents includes:

  • The company’s name, address, and the account representative (if applicable)
  • A copy of the Original application
  • Any and all addenda to applications
  • Any and all communication from the company or person securing the debt
  • Any and all legal notices sent concerning the debt
  • Any and all financial statements regarding the debt

Please note that this is not an exhaustive list. Further, in addition to the two hard copies that you have, you may want to consider scanning the documents and saving them to a USB drive and sending them to your email address and the email address of a family member, friend and/or attorney in case something should happen to you and the information is needed.

2. Separate Bank Accounts

Do you and your spouse have separate bank accounts? If so, do you have a Pay-on-Death, Statutory Durable Power of Attorney, or other type of arrangement, that will facilitate your spouse being able to easily access the funds upon your incapacity or death?

If you and your spouse have separate accounts, in the event of death or incapacity, you will have neither quick nor easy access to the funds if you do not have something in place to give you legal access. Some of the options you may exercise:

  • Payable on Death (POD) Account. This survivor still has to go through the burden of obtaining a death certificate for the financial institution, however, it is quicker than having to go through the probate process in order to access needed money.
  • Statutory Durable Power of Attorney. This document gives your spouse the power to make financial decisions on your behalf in the event of incapacity. The power may be as broad or as narrow as you choose.

3. Pay-on-Death Accounts

If you have any separate banking accounts with debit cards, have you exchanged pin numbers with your spouse in the case of a financial emergency? This is something that you may want to consider, because it comes in handy right after a death if- and only if- you have a Pay-on-Death clause on your account.

When you have separate accounts, obtaining a debit card and exchanging pin numbers with your spouse is the best choice in the case of your death or incapacity. When you have performed this action along with providing a POD and/or Statutory Durable Power of Attorney, it provides your spouse with the ability to limit the amount of contact with the financial institution holding the account and makes the process for receiving funds faster and less painful.

4. Undisclosed Accounts

Do you have any accounts (i.e. credit cards) of which your spouse has no knowledge? If so, do you live in a community property state? Did you include your spouse’s name on the application?

If you live in a community property state, you are responsible for your spouse’s debt- period. In the case of divorce, even if you did not know about the debt and the divorce decree holds only one spouse accountable for the debt, if the responsible party does not pay, you are responsible to pay the debt. The creditor is not bound by a divorce decree. Further, consider checking your credit report monthly to verify there are no accounts in your name to which you did not apply. If there are accounts, you have the right to ask the creditor to cancel the account. If the creditor will not cancel the account, even if your name is removed, you are still responsible for the debt.

5. Life Insurance

Do you have enough life insurance? The amount of insurance you have depends upon your estate planning goals, life style, and personal philosophy on passing along wealth. That being said, if insurance is one of your major estate planning tools, it is crucial that you obtain the correct amount.

When making life insurance decisions, it is important to do the following:

  • Calculate your debt. Please note that creditors CANNOT take money from a life insurance policy. Life insurance is a contractual agreement that occurs outside of probate. The money passes to the beneficiary outside of the probate process. If, however, you desire to have all your debts paid to ease any post-death creditor harassment your heirs may receive, you need to know the total amount.
  • How much money will it take for your spouse to maintain the current lifestyle while he/she adjusts to your loss of income?
  • How long do you want to give your spouse to adjust to your loss of income?
  • Do you have any children?
  • How old are your children?
  • Do you want to leave anything to your children?
  • How much do you want to leave to your children?
  • Do you want the insurance to cover college tuition costs? Do you have other accounts in place that are being used to cover college tuition?
  • What type of policy do you want? A whole life, term, convertible term, etc?
  • Have you talked to a financial planner and an attorney about life insurance and alternative methods of estate planning?

If you are a married, non-income earner, in the event of one of the “Four D’s”- your spouse’s death, disability, discharge from employment, or divorce- it is vital that you know your family’s current financial state. Moreover, if more security is desired to help defend your family in the case of a financial crisis, starting an income-producing activity may be a viable option.