Sometimes when I’m out driving and I notice someone walking down the road with a bag of belongings on their shoulder or see them soundly sleeping under a bridge, I automatically feel sorry for them and assume they have fallen on hard times. What if that’s not the case at all? What if they are happy living a simple life? It really makes me think about the times that I’ve been so stressed out that I wished I could just disappear and not have any responsibilities at all. I love my family and friends dearly and I know that realistically for me that is not an option. I do think however, that there is a way to live a simpler life and be happy.
I have a friend whose mother is ailing and now receiving hospice. She has a very close relationship with her mother and is constantly pulled in different directions between worrying if she is spending enough time with her mom in her final days and her normal routine of family life and all that it entails. It is a very profound feeling of responsibility. The other day she was sitting in her car crying (I call it cleansing), she looked down and saw a dandelion and wondered why is there never time to just pick it and blow the furry seeds into the wind? It reminded her of when she was a young girl and would take such pleasure in this simple act.
Makes me think that maybe the person sleeping under the bridge is closer to getting it right than I. At least they have the freedom to enjoy the simple things. They are probably more in tune than most of us. I wake up each morning with a list of things to do and at night when I survey what actually got accomplished, I realize most of what I did were things that I had done out of necessity not pleasure. There has to be a balance otherwise you can’t see the real value in finishing that list each day. And maybe it’s the simple acts that will help me get through my day.
There is no denying that there are a lot of homeless people out there and for many different reasons, but I’m just saying what if some of them are living the life that they want to live. What if the worry of a house payment and car note is too much pressure? Some people are happy just to have a place to lay their head and a little something to eat. It sounds tempting at times. To live this way would be impossible for me and I realize it to be so. But lately I do find myself thinking I’m going to evaluate my life a little more. I don’t know why people are naturally drawn to doing things in a complicated manner only later to find out it could have been done an easier way.
I’m laughing at myself because now I’ve got to decide which things will take a backseat so that I’m a happier me and that alone stresses me out. Someone save me a spot under the bridge tonight!