A Mother’s Love

A mother's love

 

 

We’ve just celebrated Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. On these days we honor our parents and celebrate all that they have done for us. When we grow up and become parents ourselves, we truly begin to understand what that means and the depth of love that our parents have for us.

 

There is no other love like the love a parent feels for their child. At times it will incite us to do things that we may not otherwise consider doing. No matter how old our children get, they are forever on our hearts and we want the best for them. It is our instinct to protect and be there for them always.

 

I was pretty shy when I was younger. I didn’t often speak up for myself. Having children is the very thing that brought me out of my shell and gave me confidence. I realized soon after my children were born that it was my responsibility to speak for them and be their advocate. I had to take care of them. I knew that if I wasn’t going to speak up and make sure they were treated justly, nobody would. There may be times when it’s wise to remain silent in the face of injustice but when it involves our children, we are compelled to protect them.

 

As my kids grew up, there were times that I had to assert myself to ensure that they were treated fairly. It wasn’t something that was very comfortable for me but I took care of things when I needed to. You may get away with messing with me but if you were unfair or mean to one of my children then you better watch out! I faced teachers, other parents, doctors, and even other kids at times. It wasn’t something that I wanted to do but as a mom I had to. It was instinctual. I call it the “Mother Hen Syndrome”.

 

The thing is, my children are now adults but I still have that instinct to protect them from people who treat them unfairly. Of course they are more than capable of speaking up for themselves but it takes great self-discipline on my part to remain silent when I see an injustice towards one of my children. I don’t think this will ever go away, this feeling of wanting to call someone out who does them wrong. But I must allow them to speak for themselves. It’s part of growing up. Besides, at this point in their lives, they would be horrified if I actually did something!

 

Unfortunately, there are always going to be people that will be hateful or try to take advantage of others and very soon, my children will be the ones who will need to speak up for my future grandchildren. This cycle will continue. Of course, if they ever need help, the grandma hen is here and ready to take action.

 

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Hurry Up Patience!

 

Patience

Patience is not the ability to wait but how you act while you’re waiting. ~Joyce Meyer

 

Frustration doesn’t open doors. Patience and perseverance does. This is a hard one to learn. Sometimes people don’t do what we want them to do or even what they say they will do. If we react with frustration, or even worse, cop an attitude, then it only shuts the door tighter. We can’t force people to act the way we want them to. We can’t bend others to our will. All that will do is alienate them and bring out the worst in them. We must show patience.

 

People let us down from time to time. We make choices on how we react and those choices determine the outcome. This doesn’t mean that you need to be passive. Being patient isn’t synonymous with being a pushover. We must have boundaries and recognize when we are being used, treated unfairly or facing unreasonable demands.  But when we do need to stand up for what is right, we can do it with compassion and patience.

 

I write this because I have found that I’ve needed a great deal of patience in my life recently. I understand that I am being given opportunities to grow but sometimes I REALLY wish the lesson could be finished. Like NOW! The reality is, I know learning patience will be a lifelong lesson and that I will continue to face the allure of frustration. My hope is to be patient with my progress.

 

If you believe in something enough, then move forward with patience, compassion and perseverance. Good things will come.

Embrace Your Uniqueness!

Be You Maritza Ortega

The other day I heard someone saying “Life gets easier when you figure out who you are and who you are not.”  I thought about it but it never clicked until today. Most of the time, I need to know how to apply things to myself so I can fully understand them.

How many times have you wished to be more like someone else? I have!

Plenty of times I have wished to be as funny, as talkative, as stylish, as crazy or as popular as someone else. I have also wished I could laugh or write and speak with colorful words like someone else. Trying and not being able to do those things only leaves frustration.

Stop wishing to be someone you are not. There are people who are into you and people who are not. That’s OK. Don’t try to be who you are not so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

It is easier said than done because we are always paying more attention to those things we are not. Identify those things you are not and accept them, but then identify those unique qualities in you and embrace them. Recognizing what’s unique in you will release you from the desire to be more like someone else.

The crazy part is that there are people who admire you and wish they could be more like you. Funny huh! Be you, you never know who you are inspiring.

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Do you believe in coincidence?

Coincidence Albert Einstein

Sometimes we forget to see God in the little things and we find it easy to give luck or coincidence the credit. It was not coincidence, I know that! It was God showing me his greatness and reminding me that He is always by my side.

This week I had a class to teach at a Builder’s Model Home. These classes are a big deal to me and I like to be prepared and get to the place where I’m teaching on time. I had not bothered looking up the address. I thought I did not need to know until the day arrived. The only thing I knew is that the place was somewhere near Spring Tx.

Also this week, was a busy week. We had 4 houses to stage and I usually like to take one day at a time and not worry about things that are not happening that day.

On Monday, we went to stage a house and on my way there I saw a sign for one of the Builder’s locations. I thought, “Great! I can stop by and visit on my way back.” Then, I realized that it is the location where I’m supposed to teach on Wednesday. I said “Oh, good! Now I know where to come on Wednesday!”

In my sleep I had a nightmare. It was time for the class and I wasn’t prepared. I had forgotten my TV. There is no way I can do the class without the power point presentation. There are a lot of pictures in which I show the difference between a house that has been staged and a house that hasn’t. I had no TV and no way to teach the class! In my dream, Realtors and Sales Counselors were disappointed and I wanted to hide myself inside the shadows of shame.

Wednesday morning arrived and I’m getting ready to leave. I make sure I’ve got everything I need, specially the TV! I also know that I have plenty of time to get there and to get ready before Realtors start arriving. There is nothing worse than arriving late or being unprepared! I know where I’m going. I just drove there on Monday.

As I enter the address on my GPS –I wasn’t very familiar with the area on Monday, I see that the place where it is taking me is totally opposite to the place where I’m supposed to go. I’m confused now. I look up online and see that I was right. I’m going to the place that I drove by on Monday. I just have the wrong address.

As I am on my way to the class, I start thinking “Can you imagine what would have happened if I hadn’t staged the house on Monday that happens to be on the same road as the Partners In Building location where I’m supposed to go! I would have gone to another location in a different part of town and never gotten to the right place on time. It would have been a disaster!!” Then, I realize that there is no such thing as coincidence. It was God watching over me.

Truth is, He knows what tomorrow brings and there is not a day He has not seen. There is not a place where we go that He’s not already been.

And, to top that off, I received an email with this quote:

Coincidence is my feeble attempt to explain the majesty of God. -Ronald Earl Wilsher

Coincidence?… I don’t think so!!

Don’t worry ‘bout a thing!

 

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I must confess; sometimes, I am a worrier. But looking at this picture of the beautiful Texas bluebonnets brings me peace. It reminds me to be still and take in the power and glory of my Father. So many things in life are beyond our control but seeing the brilliant art that He provides us every day is a blessing beyond words.

 

Are you really good at worrying? Do you excel at thinking about things until you think you’ve found a solution at hand? Does paranoia creep into your thoughts? Do you stay up at night worrying about all the what-ifs? Does worry even make you sick?

 

If this describes you, I ask you, think about these preoccupations. What has grabbed your attention? What is keeping you awake at night? What kinds of things are making you stress out to the point of sickness?

 

There have been times in my life that worry takes hold and I’m crippled by it. I lay awake at night fruitlessly trying to solve all the problems of the world. When I do this, it’s usually only for a short time because I eventually realize that I’m not really in control and whatever plan I’m able to devise is far inferior to what God has planned. My small mind cannot even begin to comprehend the whys and hows of what lies ahead. So I continue on my journey to “Let Go and Let God”.

 

I have found that one of the ways I’m able to let go is to ask myself if whatever has me upset, worried, and agitated will still matter in one year. If the answer is “no”, then that tells me that it must not really be that important. That one simple question tends to eliminate a great deal of what is struggling to dominate my thoughts.

 

I know that sometimes things that really don’t matter in the “big picture” can get us worked into a frenzy. When that happens we lose sight of where we are going and what our intentions are. It may even sabotage our efforts to be productive and kindhearted.

 

If we focus on what matters most and what will still matter many years from now such as; God, grace, love, health, family, joy, and charity, then we can quickly realize that little things that prey on us need to be let go. So I encourage you; Let Go, Let God and look around and be thankful for all that you are blessed with. His will be done.

 

Don’t worry ‘bout a thing, ‘cause every little thing gonna be alright.

 

~ Bob Marley