Why Failing Your New Year’s Resolution is Good for You



It’s that time of year again. The time when you set New Year’s Resolutions that you are determined to stick to this year.  I’m here to tell you that failing your New Year’s Resolutions is one of the best things that can happen to you. Let me explain…

What is a New Year’s Resolution?

A New Year’s Resolution is when you make a promise that you are going to improve some aspect of your life from January 1st, forward, and that it will become a permanent aspect of your life. The hope is that this one day decision will be something that alters your habits and tendencies and you never have to look back again. Pretty accurate so far? Now it’s time to fail.

How Failing Helps You Achieve Success

The best way to achieve this goal, as quickly as possible is to fail and fail often.  The reason is simple, failing is inevitable. If you look at any aspect of your life that others would consider you successful, you would probably tell them you are successful because you persevered through the many failures that life handed you.  Some of the best moms learned through trial and error. They persevered, never gave up, and learned as time went on, and they became better moms for that. No matter how far along you are, when you fail and get back up again, you will end up further ahead than when you started. Learning those valuable lessons are what makes us stronger at what we do.

The Misconception

We often look at successful people and assume they had an easy road to follow. They think that it was always easy for them, that they never had struggles, or they never wanted to give up. Odds are, they faced all of those situations…multiple times. Your trials are going to strengthen you. When you learn to persevere through a trial, you will be stronger. You will learn how to overcome that obstacle in the future, and you will figure out a way to not let it trip you up again. You have a choice every time you face a failure, but if you decide that you won’t let it beat you, you will be so much more successful in the end.

Fail and Fail Often

Fail often, but never give up. When you fail, remember that it is all a part of becoming successful. No matter how hard it seems, you can overcome the tests. In the fitness industry, I see it every February and March. People just give up, and often it is right at the point where they could be successful if they would just push a little harder. Fail, but don’t let it beat you from achieving your long term goals.

“Life’s greatest tragedy is not to fall down, its’ to stay down. The greatest disaster in life is not to fail, it’s to park there, and say ‘What’s the use?'”, Pastor Francois Louw

Are you getting enough?


How much is enough

Okay, get your minds outta the gutter here! I’m talking about water, you know, good old H2O? Whenever I hear multiple messages about the same topic I start to feel like I’m meant to pay closer attention. Like I’m being hit over the head with it. Lately I’ve been hearing a lot of people talk about how much water you should drink. I get it; most of us don’t drink enough water. In fact, most of us are actually pretty dehydrated and have habitually been in that state for a long time. I figured it was time for me to start paying attention to how much I’m drinking. And I’m not talking about wine.


According to the experts, you should drink at least half of your body weight in water. For instance, if you weigh 200 lbs. you should drink at least 100 ounces of water each day. That means almost 6, 16.9 oz. bottles of water. If you exercise or live in a warm climate, then you should drink closer to equal your body weight in ounces of water. That means 200 ounces of water if you weigh 200 pounds. It seems like A LOT! That would be 12 bottles of water.


Apparently, if you do this, your body will love you! It helps brain function, memory, mood, skin, digestion and all kinds of wonderful things about our body that we expect to miraculously work properly. Okay, I’m game.


I decided to give it a try. Even though I feel like I already drink a lot of water, I had to work my way up to my goal amount. Initially I was afraid that I’d end up spending all of my time in the bathroom due to a pea sized bladder but it actually hasn’t made that much of a difference in the number of trips to the potty. This may be TMI but it’s just increased the output, if you know what I mean. I’ve also discovered that the more water I drink, the thirstier I become. I actually WANT to drink more. WATER, folks! We’re still talking about water here.


Some of the differences that I’ve noticed so far include a bit of a breakout on my face. I know it’s a little unpleasant but it’s temporary. This is due to the toxins making their way out. After the first week, this went away and I feel like my skin is moister now. I’ve also noticed less bloating and a flatter stomach. And like I said, I’m thirsty! For water! I’m only into this about 2 weeks so I’m looking forward to even more benefits in the weeks to come.


Since we are in the holiday season and most of us tend to drink more alcohol, eat more junk, exercise less, have more stress and get less sleep, I urge to join me and do at least this one little thing to help you make it through the next few weeks. When you start thinking about that diet after new years, you’ll be glad that you did. Cheers!


It’s time to break in the new Yoga instructor!


Last month, my favorite yoga instructor, Shohreh, informed me that she would not continue to teach the Saturday morning class after the start of the New Year. I have taken yoga from many different instructors and have witnessed many different styles over the years. Some great, some bearable, and some …… let’s just say they didn’t get a second chance. I empathize with anyone stepping into that class and trying to fill her shoes because Shohreh is just that awesome.


So I ventured out the first Saturday of the New Year to give the newbie a try and boy was I surprised!


First of all, I have to point out that it was the first of the year when everyone with a New Years Resolution to lose weight or get in shape has joined the gym. The classes that I normally take are packed with new people trying to get acclimated to the gym. So the yoga room was literally packed. Yoga mats were lined up really close to each other without a lot of room to spare.


The new instructor introduced herself at the front of the room and the first thing that got my attention was that she had a really strong voice. Most of the instructors use a little microphone headset but she had the type of voice that carried and didn’t need tech help to be heard. Ok, that’s not a big deal, right?


She started us out lying on our mat and telling us to relax and let go of all tension and stress. Just leave it behind…… she had us place a hand on our belly and a hand on our chest to feel our breath go in and out. “Feel the rise and fall of your belly and chest with each breath and scan the body for tension and let it gooooooo.” Ok, I’m thinking, this is fine. I can tell she is using her soothing, soft voice. It’s not so bad. She says take a deep inhale and let it out with a sigh. Demonstrating, we hear her breath go innnnnnnnn and then AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! (unfortunately, I cannot in print alone, emphasize just how loud she sighed) All I can say is that I literally jumped off of my mat about 3 inches and levitated. Trust me, I wasn’t the only one. It was so weird! Of course then I got the giggles and giggles are NOT appropriate in a quiet yoga room. My friend who was on the mat next to me started to giggle too. Oh no! I could feel myself very near that edge where you fall into an endless fit of out loud laughter. Sooooo not appropriate! It was a struggle but I did manage to get myself together and continue with the class.


I really wanted to like her. I really tried to go in with an open mind. Instead of me breaking her in, I think she broke me. The ommmmm’s and the shanti, shanti, shanti at the end kinda sealed the deal though. This is the YMCA! We don’t really chant. I may have to find another Saturday morning class. Thank goodness Shohreh still teaches yoga classes during the week that fit into my schedule.


Can you fit into your “Skinny Jeans”?


I know tons of people that continuously struggle with their weight. It’s up and down all the time for them. Old habits are hard to break and new ones even harder to create. It seems like they will be “good” for a while, lose the weight they wanted to shed and then the slow climb back up on the scale immediately resumes.  One only has to take a look in the grocery baskets of most people to understand why they gain the weight back.  But I’m not going to address our eating habits, portion sizes, or even the emotional eating that we do. I want to talk about what’s in your closet for a moment.


I think just about everybody I know has “fat jeans” and “skinny jeans”. I ask, why? If you have struggled to lose weight and you finally reach your goal, plan on staying there. It’s like a guarantee that you will, once again, fit into those fat jeans that you want to NOT fit into if you keep a closet full of them! How can I stress this enough? GET RID OF YOUR FAT JEANS!!!  Unless you are in child-bearing years or have a health condition that causes weight fluctuations, give ‘em all away! What more motivation do you need other than knowing that keeping them will insure that you will need them?


I don’t pay attention to the scale. I know that I’ve gained “real” weight when my clothes are tight. I promise, if you go through a couple of uncomfortable days wearing jeans that barely zip and you have to go through all kinds of bending, pulling and deep knee bends just to get them on, it’s GREAT incentive to eat a little healthier. If you truly know that you have no options for larger clothes, then you will most likely stay in the size that is hanging in your closet. So ditch that backup plan and buy yourself some more skinny jeans!

Slow and Steady Wins the Race

Woman with Scale


I have been on this quest since the first of the year to live a healthier lifestyle.  When you fall into bad habits it seems to take a little longer to bounce back because you have all of those foods that you love but that are bad for you calling your name every time you get hungry.  Maybe it’s me but I crave them even more when I’m forcing myself NOT to eat them. Yes I need to lose a few pounds but I have decided that this time I’m not going to try and lose them overnight.  I have chosen the road less traveled. Not putting the pressure on myself to lose the weight right away.  Without having that stress knocking inside my brain helps me to think a little clearer.  Who want to be the “No thank you, I’m on a diet” person?  And with the word diet there is always the stigma of stepping on the scale, looking in the mirror, expecting immediate results everyday.  No way I could be that person, my brain would do such a number on me. I’m crazy that way!


So I thought maybe this time no pressure.  I am going to make the best effort possible everyday to make good choices but if I slip a little then there is always tomorrow. Really who makes good choices everyday? If you look at most people who go cold turkey, yes they successfully lose their weight but they don’t keep it off and I’m looking for a more permanent change.


Growing up and living in Texas has become somewhat of a hindrance as far as eating healthy goes. After all this is the “Chicken Fried Steak” state!  Obviously that always comes with mashed potatoes, cream gravy, green beans (with a pound of something in it) and Texas toast.  Then there is the Tex Mex on every corner….uhgg.  For me the key is eating more at home because if I’m craving a food then by cooking it at home, I can control the size of the proportion and the ingredients going in it or on it.  You can actually customize the dish to your liking.  Most times when ordering at a restaurant I’m usually giving special instructions about what to leave off or add anyway.


For me, there’s got to be a loose plan in place. It should be different for everyone since we know ourselves better than anyone else and therefore we can come up with what is best suited for us.  We all have different jobs and lifestyles. We don’t all like to eat the same things, so it’s hard to follow a specific diet word for word.  I’ll be honest; I am not a big fan of book diets.  How many of you have spent loads of money on different diet books and now they are sitting somewhere gathering dust because you couldn’t get past their Week 1. Now it’s waiting to be sold in the next garage sale for a dollar to the next sucker.


So basically my plan of attack is to eat the healthy things that I like. I have a mental list and I try to incorporate into each meal.  Also I am not nor have I ever been a big gym goer. It works for a lot of people just not me.  But I do enjoy walking, so that’s my main gig.  Luckily I live in the country so I can walk out my door at anytime and just head down the road. Again it’s all about what suits you.  It’s true, by choosing this path you will NOT see results immediately but you will feel it and hopefully it will be a more permanent solution.