Time for Another Facelift



Yep, this will actually be my second one! At this point you’re most likely looking for a photo of me and thinking, she didn’t get her moneys worth the first time.


No, I’m not talking about my face or me; I’m talking about my website! Woman’s InSite is undergoing changes for the better. I can’t believe where I started and how fast things change but technology demands that I get mobile responsive so you all can read my site easier on your phones and tablets since we are all on the run these days.


I figure if I’m going to make a change then I’m going to change it all. I’ll have a whole new look and I know you are going to LOVE IT!


Here’s a look back at my first logo:



Here’s what I have now:

Proof4 NEW WIS logo


You’ll have to stay tuned to see what’s to come! I’ve already let you know that I’ll be having another party VERY SOON to celebrate my book, Networking: Naked & Unafraid. I think celebrating my new look will be in order as well.


Watch for details on the upcoming celebration!

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Why Failing Your New Year’s Resolution is Good for You



It’s that time of year again. The time when you set New Year’s Resolutions that you are determined to stick to this year.  I’m here to tell you that failing your New Year’s Resolutions is one of the best things that can happen to you. Let me explain…

What is a New Year’s Resolution?

A New Year’s Resolution is when you make a promise that you are going to improve some aspect of your life from January 1st, forward, and that it will become a permanent aspect of your life. The hope is that this one day decision will be something that alters your habits and tendencies and you never have to look back again. Pretty accurate so far? Now it’s time to fail.

How Failing Helps You Achieve Success

The best way to achieve this goal, as quickly as possible is to fail and fail often.  The reason is simple, failing is inevitable. If you look at any aspect of your life that others would consider you successful, you would probably tell them you are successful because you persevered through the many failures that life handed you.  Some of the best moms learned through trial and error. They persevered, never gave up, and learned as time went on, and they became better moms for that. No matter how far along you are, when you fail and get back up again, you will end up further ahead than when you started. Learning those valuable lessons are what makes us stronger at what we do.

The Misconception

We often look at successful people and assume they had an easy road to follow. They think that it was always easy for them, that they never had struggles, or they never wanted to give up. Odds are, they faced all of those situations…multiple times. Your trials are going to strengthen you. When you learn to persevere through a trial, you will be stronger. You will learn how to overcome that obstacle in the future, and you will figure out a way to not let it trip you up again. You have a choice every time you face a failure, but if you decide that you won’t let it beat you, you will be so much more successful in the end.

Fail and Fail Often

Fail often, but never give up. When you fail, remember that it is all a part of becoming successful. No matter how hard it seems, you can overcome the tests. In the fitness industry, I see it every February and March. People just give up, and often it is right at the point where they could be successful if they would just push a little harder. Fail, but don’t let it beat you from achieving your long term goals.

“Life’s greatest tragedy is not to fall down, its’ to stay down. The greatest disaster in life is not to fail, it’s to park there, and say ‘What’s the use?'”, Pastor Francois Louw

Are you getting enough?


How much is enough

Okay, get your minds outta the gutter here! I’m talking about water, you know, good old H2O? Whenever I hear multiple messages about the same topic I start to feel like I’m meant to pay closer attention. Like I’m being hit over the head with it. Lately I’ve been hearing a lot of people talk about how much water you should drink. I get it; most of us don’t drink enough water. In fact, most of us are actually pretty dehydrated and have habitually been in that state for a long time. I figured it was time for me to start paying attention to how much I’m drinking. And I’m not talking about wine.


According to the experts, you should drink at least half of your body weight in water. For instance, if you weigh 200 lbs. you should drink at least 100 ounces of water each day. That means almost 6, 16.9 oz. bottles of water. If you exercise or live in a warm climate, then you should drink closer to equal your body weight in ounces of water. That means 200 ounces of water if you weigh 200 pounds. It seems like A LOT! That would be 12 bottles of water.


Apparently, if you do this, your body will love you! It helps brain function, memory, mood, skin, digestion and all kinds of wonderful things about our body that we expect to miraculously work properly. Okay, I’m game.


I decided to give it a try. Even though I feel like I already drink a lot of water, I had to work my way up to my goal amount. Initially I was afraid that I’d end up spending all of my time in the bathroom due to a pea sized bladder but it actually hasn’t made that much of a difference in the number of trips to the potty. This may be TMI but it’s just increased the output, if you know what I mean. I’ve also discovered that the more water I drink, the thirstier I become. I actually WANT to drink more. WATER, folks! We’re still talking about water here.


Some of the differences that I’ve noticed so far include a bit of a breakout on my face. I know it’s a little unpleasant but it’s temporary. This is due to the toxins making their way out. After the first week, this went away and I feel like my skin is moister now. I’ve also noticed less bloating and a flatter stomach. And like I said, I’m thirsty! For water! I’m only into this about 2 weeks so I’m looking forward to even more benefits in the weeks to come.


Since we are in the holiday season and most of us tend to drink more alcohol, eat more junk, exercise less, have more stress and get less sleep, I urge to join me and do at least this one little thing to help you make it through the next few weeks. When you start thinking about that diet after new years, you’ll be glad that you did. Cheers!


Pumpkin Cheesecake by Chef Michael

Pumpkin Cheesecake


Pumpkin Cheesecake

with a

Pumpkin Spice cream cheese topping



For the crust:


1 cup Graham Cracker Crumbs

3 tbsp. Sugar

3 tbsp. butter, melted


Mix crumbs and sugar, add butter; press firmly onto bottom of a 9-inch spring form pan.

Bake at 325 degrees for 10 minutes.


For the Cheesecake:


5 – 8 oz. pkg. cream cheese, softened

1 cup granulated sugar

¼ cup light brown sugar

2 eggs

1 – 15 oz. can 100% Pure Pumpkin

1 cup sour cream

3 tbsp. all purpose flour

1 ¼ tsp. ground cinnamon

½ tsp. ground nutmeg


Beat cream cheese, sugar and brown sugar in a large mixer bowl until fluffy. Beat in eggs, pumpkin and sour cream. Add flour, cinnamon and nutmeg; beat well. Pour into crust.


Bake for 55 to 60 minutes or until edge is set but center still moves slightly. When cooled, top with cream cheese topping, optional.


For the Pumpkin Spice Cream Cheese topping:Chef Michael and Patricia


1 – 8 oz. cream cheese, softened

¼ cup confectioner’s sugar, sifted

¼ tsp. pumpkin pie spice


Combine all three ingredients and beat until fluffy.

How to Lose the Mommy Tummy

new mom exercising

One of the most common things I hear from new mothers is the frustration they have with getting back into their pre-pregnancy shape.  There are times that the new mom can just focus on cleaning up her nutrition and starting an exercise program, but there also times that this isn’t enough.

Weight Gain vs Abdominal Separation

After giving birth to your precious bundle of joy, it’s not uncommon to struggle with getting rid of the mommy tummy. There should have been some weight gain during the pregnancy, and there is no reason to rush to losing any body fat that you gained initially during pregnancy. When a mom is breastfeeding, weight loss should not be as big of a priority as making sure the baby is getting the nutrients he/she needs. There is one condition that creates a lasting effect on your abdominal shape though, called Diastasis Recti, a fancy name for abdominal separation, and it is a bit more difficult to get rid of.

What is Diastasis Recti?

During pregnancy the rectus abdominus (muscles in the abdominals) can be stretched apart creating a gap between the muscles. It’s most likely to happen to women over 35, large (or multiple birth) babies, and/or multiple pregnancies. It’s the type of change that has a lasting impact on your body no matter how lean you get, but there are things you can do that make it better (or worse!).

Bad Exercises for Diastasis Recti

I know you want to hit the gym hard and start doing all of the crunches you see everyone else doing. It makes sense, right? Your abs don’t look right, so you need to work your abs harder to get the shape you want!  It’s not going to work in this case. Doing crunches that push out your abdominal wall will only make the problem worse over time. Avoid all types of exercises that push your abdominals up and create pressure on the separated area.

Good Exercises for Diastasis Recti

Focus on exercises that pull the abdominals down towards your spine.  This will all you to use your deeper core muscles to draw the abdominals in and reduce the space between the separation.  The exercises I love for this include:

Beginnerwoman seated abdominal

  • Seated Contraction – Sitting upright in a chair, try to pull the abdominals towards your spine. Hold it for 2 seconds at a time, and then return to a middle position. Make sure you don’t push out your abs in between. Eventually work your time up to a 10 second hold.  The more repetitions you do, the better. It’s an exercise you can do even while you watch television!
  • Floor Contraction – This is easier than the first exercise, but it’s still an excellent exercise to work on. Do the same exercise as above while laying on your back on the floor. Try to hold the contraction for 20-30 seconds instead of 2-10 seconds. To make it easier you can bend your knees, and to make it more challenging, straighten your legs and let them rest on the floor.

Intermediatewoman wall push up

  • Wall Pushup – Hold yourself in a pushup position on the wall while drawing the abdominal exercise in, like you did in the beginner exercises. Now you are fighting gravity more than before and your abdominals will work much harder.
  • Ball Bridge – Sit on a stability ball and roll forward until your head is resting comfortably on the ball. Your knees should be at 90 degrees and your torso will be flat, like a table. Now do the same hold/contraction that you did previously in the floor contraction exercise.


  • Wall Squat – With your back against the wall, lower yourself until your legs are at a 90 degree angle. In this position, draw your abdominals in for 5 seconds and then woman wall squatslowly raise yourself back up. Start by doing this exercise 10 times, but work your way up to 20 repetitions.

With any medical condition, it’s always advisable to contact your physician first. These are very simple, progressive exercise that can be done for those with Diastasis Recti. The key is to build as much strength in the muscles that draw the abdominals in, as opposed to pushing the abs out.  I hope it’s helpful, and would welcome any questions you have.