I’ve noticed as people get older they ask themselves or each other, “If you could go back and do “IT” all over again…. would you? Turning fifty has really made me think about what I would change about the last few decades of my life, if given the chance. Sure there are things that I regret, but some of the most valuable lessons I have learned come from mistakes or bad decisions I’ve made in my life.
My daughter, Kathryn, is thirteen now and I catch myself trying to talk her out of making mistakes that I made when I was her age. When really, the best thing for me to do is to let her go ahead and learn from her mistakes on her own. Wow, it is so hard to sit back and watch. I instantly get a knot in my stomach and a voice in my head that says “Danger Will Robinson!”. I guess it teaches me to have faith and a little patience. Ha! Life Lesson #1009.
Now I realize my mistakes a lot quicker than I would have when I was much younger. Ahhh, to be in my twenties again. No thank you! I sometimes shake my head in horror of how many times I escaped certain situations that I put myself in back then. Really, I must have an army of guardian angels watching over me.
So would I go back and relive my life differently if I had the chance? For me the answer is a definite NO. I don’t believe in coincidences. However, I do believe that everything is put in front of us for a reason and it’s how we deal with these things or what we learn from them that make us who we are. I think about all the blessings that I have in my life today and if I were to lose them all by making different decisions than I did the first time around; how profound. It’s just not worth it. This is going to sound so cliché but life really is about the journey. Have you ever had something bad happen and you are so caught up in the drama of it that you don’t understand why? But you look back now and get it. If you are paying attention you’re going to learn so many things from mistakes made and it’s so surprising to see all of the good things that come from these trying moments in life. It’s so funny that way. I 150% believe that everything happens for a reason.
How would you answer the question? I always hear people say that they would love to go back and relive their life especially knowing what they know now. For me the risk is too great to take and that is the whole reason I choose to live in the moment. Because of what I know now!