You know how it is when you have such a close friend that you are aware of just about everything going on in each other’s life. You laugh together, cry together, enjoy each other’s accomplishments and mourn the failures. This only happens with very special, close friendships. It’s a great thing to have someone so empathetic to your emotions. Definitely something to treasure and be thankful for.
On the flip side, lies the problem with this kind of empathy. My friends and I have discovered another aspect of this. It’s this “contagious” effect. For instance, it starts with the usual menstrual cycle that seems to all of the sudden synchronize. The ole “dormitory syndrome”. That’s predictable. What’s not predictable is that if you both miss one at the same time? But we have noticed some weird things that go beyond the call of friendship. There’s the whole skin tag thing. Let’s just say one of us had one years ago. Now the other has noticed one. You may say those are common. Ok, we’ll go along. But what about migraine headaches? One of us has been a migraine sufferer since childhood. In particular, ones that are triggered by smells. The other never had one. Well, now we both experience them and can’t bear to be around perfume. We even noticed that we get pimples in the same places at the same time. And how about allergies that give you puffy eyes? I’m furious! I’ve got enough of my own problems without having to take on hers too.
It’s gotten to the point that when one of us gets a new ailment, we’re kind of afraid to tell the other because we know it might turn into “the deal breaker”. It might be the one thing that the other just can’t handle. I know of one thing that my friend would not go along with. You see, I have this big toe that, well…let’s just say I’m known for it,…..and not in a good way. If her toe started to morph into what I have, that would probably be the end of our friendship.